Found a great blog post when Stumbling today (do you know about Stubmeupon?). It is 100 Ways to Say I Love You. Thought it might be helpful for people trying to reconcile with their ex. Remember, though, not to go overboard with this. Ya gotta mean it, and ya gotta use the words sparingly. But it is a good reminder that “actions speak louder than words.”

Here are a few of the creative ways to say “I love you” on Chelle’s list.

#6. On a a T-shirt.

#19. In another language. (See How to Say I Love You in French.)

#33. With a secret phrase.

#77. Draw a picture.

#81. Practice random acts of kindness.

#87. Put their needs ahead of your own.

Read the blog to see the rest. Some are goofy (#89. Be totally goofy), some are sweet (#13. With something sweet). You may not be able to do some of them now, such as #1. With kisses and #2. With hugs, but when you get back together there will be ample opportunities to catch up.

Be creative. Add to this list, and say “I love you” to that special person. It may help you get your ex back.

Take care.

Don H. Moris, Memphis, Tennessee

It’s obvious that you are serious about saving your relationship, of rekindling the flame with your ex-boyfriend, because you are reading this article. But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be doing things that cause your ex to pull away from you to get some space he feels he needs. It is human nature to back off when feeling pressured. It’s only natural to back off when someone is crowding you. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

Are you constantly e-mailing your ex, or sending text messages all the time? Are you phoning him several times a day, and leaving long messages when he doesn’t pick up, telling him how much you miss him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If so, your first step is stop it right now! If you are asking yourself ” What can I do to get my ex-boyfriend back,” then you need to stop doing things that push him away immediately.

So What can you do to get your ex-boyfriend back? Follow this strategy instead.

You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach. It may seem counterintuitive, but breaking off contact with your ex-boyfriend for awhile is the best approach. Put the focus on yourself, not him. Do things that interest you and spend time with friends doing something besides talking about how much you miss your ex-boyfriend. During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex-boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.

During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. He may be intrigued because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which won’t happen if you are always around and begging to spend time with him.

The key to this strategy is to work with human nature, not against it. Avoid common mistakes that many women make, and take a breather from your relationship. This will give your ex a chance to remember why he loved you in the first place.

Just relax and keep yourself in balance, Instead of smothering your ex, play “hard to get,” without overdoing it, and let him make the first move. Then you will stop asking “What can I do to get my ex-boyfriend back?”

And here’s a heads-up for any guys re3ading this article: This same strategy can help you get your ex-girlfriend back, too.

Get more proven strategies for making up with your ex, with clear step-by-step instructions on how to implement them, in The Magic of Making Up by T.W. Jackson.

If you are, listen to this carefully. These efforts are likely to hurt your chances for reconciling with your ex for this reason: You cannot tell for sure what the real reasons were for your breakup. Apologizing for anything and everything that might have caused your ex to walk out is counterproductive.  Sometimes women do not even know themselves what led to the breakup and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. It is useless to spend all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first step, or opening move, to answer the question “What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?” is to stop over-analyzing the relationship, take a break from it for awhile, and put your energy into something else. If you are like most people, you are too close to the situation to see what you did to contribute to the breakup. Instead of staying home and moping, go out, make friends, have fun, and forget about dating in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The effect that a cooling off period like this will have is that it will allow you to make gradual changes in your life and in how you perceive the subject of relationships. One thing that will happen is that you will be able to see the situation more clearly when you step back and look at it from a distance. After a few months, you may have a much better idea of how you want to proceed with your ex.

Then you will be able to decide if you still want to get back together with your ex. Or you may discover that you are ready to move on. Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

Now is your chance to be a little more direct when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to play strategically, however. Do not simply beg her to get back with you, because this is not a good time to be emotional.

Instead, what you should be doing is taking things slow and easy with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as much as you are missing her. Play a little bit “hard to get” without overdoing it. This will show her that you are doing okay without her. This will inspire her to take a second look at her relationship with you.

And if getting back together with your ex really is in the cards,  after a cooling off period you will be better able to tell. Stop analyzing what you did or didn’t do too much, because over-analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way to get your ex girlfriend back. Just take things slow and play it cool and everything should turn out fine.

And guess what? This cooling off period strategy can help a woman get her ex-boyfriend back, too.

If you found this strategy helpful, you can find more about it and what to do next in The Magic of Making Up System by T.W. Jackson.

Trying to save your relationship can be a very difficult thing to do. There is always the worry that you’ll make one wrong move and lose the person you love forever.

Unfortunately, what feels like the right thing to do, is often wrong. Most times we should follow the ‘counterintuitive path‘. When we feel like calling is when we should stay cool instead. When we feel like pouring our hearts out is when we should put a lid on it.

As a warning, you may have never seen the techniques you’re about to discover before. At first glance they may look and feel wrong. But rest assured, these techniques have been proven to be effective time and again in even what seems the most complicated situations.

Counterintuitive Technique #1

The first technique you need to use is to agree with and accept the fact that your ex has broken up with you. This can be very difficult to do and the chances are good that you will have a bit of an internal battle before you’re able to do so.

It can definitely help to understand why you need to accept the breakup, and how it can help you get back together. The main reason is because you need to give your ex time to respect and miss you again. The chances are that they are mad or upset with you at the moment, especially if you’ve beem nagging them about getting back together.

Counterintuitive Technique #2

The second technique you need to use is to cut off all communication. You’re probably about ready to close your browser right now! Hold on, because this technique really does work. It helps you to accept the breakup and is the action that shows your ex you are serious.

By not communicating you are allowing your ex time to miss you and time to get over the reasons for breaking up. This space will be good for your mental health as well, and will help you to think clearly. It also sets you up for the next technique.

Counterintuitive Technique #3

The next step is to plan an event where you two can reconnect. But there are many critical steps in between you cannot leave out! Discover all the counterintuitive and unconventional steps to get back with your ex.